What is the difference between counselling and psychology?
Counselling is the generic term used to cover several processes of guiding designed to support an individual. Psychology is not easily categorised, but it is what scientists and philosophers of various persuasions have created to try to fulfil the need to understand the minds and behaviours of the complexity of man, and thus offers a distinct discipline in a diverse variety of areas, from clinical, to organisational, to educational.
What's the difference between psychotherapy and psychiatry?
Psychotherapy is, in the most inclusive sense, the use of absolutely any technique or procedure that has palliative effects, that is to lessen pain or suffering, upon any emotional or behavioural disorder. Psychiatry is the specialisation within medicine, encompassing prevention, diagnosis, treatment and research of mental disorders.
Will I get 'fixed'?
This in itself relates to people's negative perception of themselves. It is much more about the release of suffering and balancing out one's personality. This can be liberating as people let go of some of the unnecessary emotional clutter they carry with them through life.
How long will this take?
This is rather dependent on what is presented and what individuals want to work towards. If the work is brief focal then it is usually related to specific difficulties that solutions can be found for. However, if it is life changing work then this is often a process in itself that relates to the therapeutic alliance and relationship that provides the healing, which takes more time.
I am such a mess, how can you possibly help me?
People often feel like this and are then surprised at how their lives can start making sense as they work through issues that before seemed unresolvable.
If I do this work, will it change me so much that I will seem different to everyone?
The anxiety of change is common and people often find that subtle changes in their life have profound effects that are positive. When individuals start making changes, it can be empowering and decisions can be made in a much clearer sense. One can be seen as different in behaviour, assertiveness in choices but that does not mean that they are a completely different person.
I don't believe in all this talking therapy stuff. How can talking work?
I personally understand why individuals are resistant to believe in the power of the therapeutic relationship that is sometimes connected by talking. However, being attuned to, supported, heard, understood and empathised with provides a quality of therapeutic relationship that has incredible effects upon one's psychological and emotional wellbeing.
Why am I so anxious about seeing you or starting therapy?
it is understandable why doing therapy is naturally anxiety provoking because one is taking themselves into a process where they can feel emotionally naked. It is the therapist's job to provide a safe environment where individuals can work, learn and evolve whilst simultaneously feeling emotionally held.
If I leave can I come back?
If people want to come back to do more work then I believe that's a positive process. If they are anxious about leaving because of any potential co-dependency on the therapist then it's up to the therapist to encourage and support the individual in letting go and living the life they have the potential to live. Autonomy should not be compromised by therapists rescuing when it is not necessary to do so. Having said that, it's perfectly acceptable to re-contract for work going towards individuating from the therapeutic process.